Same sex marriage and the failure of evangelical ethics

I was out for dinner this week when someone wondered whether in 20 years time gay couples will be welcomed and affirmed in our churches and whether we will be as embarrassed by our present opposition to gay relationships as we are that Christians once argued in support of slavery, racial segregation, and female subordination? If history is anything to go by, rightly or wrongly, I think the answer is “yes”.

We evangelicals fondly declare that in Jesus and the bible God has given us his universal moral absolutes. Yet our history  is littered not with examples of Christians discovering God’s universal moral absolutes and sticking to them but by constant and dramatic changes of mind. To the examples given above add complete about-faces in our ethics of war, government, wealth, sex, environment, divorce and remarriage, and more.

The pattern is almost always the same. We baptise the prevailing view of our culture or sub-culture and equate it with biblical teaching. We declare the bible is crystal clear and our only responsibility is to obey. Then as culture shifts we take another look at Scripture and develop new interpretations. Once the genie’s out of the bottle there’s no putting it back. As culture shifts Christians will gravitate toward interpretations of the bible that provide the best fit with the new cultural context and a new Christian norm comes into being. Conservatives, wedded to the culture of the past, declare the sky is falling in and question the faith of those challenging the ethic of the past, while progressives, wedded to the emerging culture, make the case that God is calling us to a different way and that should we not follow we will wound  the vulnerable and consign the church to irrelevance.

It it seems to me that we have a methodological problem, which is built on our belief that Scripture provides universal moral absolutes. Convinced of this we over-read biblical texts, either to support or challenge the status quo.  But what if the ethical centre of Christianity is not finding and observing universal moral absolutes but cultivating Christlike character, building lives and communities that reflect the character of God revealed in Christ – just, loving, compassionate, generous, forgiving, graceful, merciful, faithful, etc? What if ethics is no more and no less than this? What if the imperatives of the bible are not universal rules for every generation to follow but examples of how generations long past lived out the character of God within the cultural setting of their time?

I fear we are about to become embroiled in yet another nasty debate where the same old nasty patterns will be repeated only this time the issue will be gay partnerships. Rather than being captive to the character of Christ we will once again show that our ethic is little more than a pale and belated echo of culture. Isn’t it time we admit that the real problem isn’t the presenting issue but a flawed methodology that can’t deliver the universal moral absolutes we demand of it?

 

 

 

 

42 comments

  • Dear Scott,
    Is your rejection of universal moral absolutes absolute?
    I confess to being convinced that in our universe the nature of reality does include distinctions, white is different to black. And while there may be shades of grey, to choose white is not to choose grey or black. I endorse your Christ centred approach but fear you may be overstating the case.

    • Hi Richard,
      I agree that reality provides the context for ethics and that it has an objective shape. The problem I see is that when we try to derive moral absolutes from it or define it in terms of moral absolutes we tend to articulate views that diverge from earlier Christian claims. So who got it right and how will we ever know? On the other hand I think there are virtue/character absolutes that are consistent across millenia but demand fresh expression in different historical settings

  • Sorry but this article is poor. It does not deal with family law issues related to surrogacy and sperm donation at all. It fails to deal with issues relating to psychology of children whether pro gay marriage or contra and it has from a theological viewpoint no discussion of marriage as found in Scripture including polygamy and concubinage. It is a very very weak “let’s get evangelicals guilty bent”. And I happen to believe the evangelical church has done poorly in dealing with the issue. I am sad that such a weak article has been posted.

  • Hi Scott,
    I agree that the NT documents were primarily pastoral, and written to particular people/churches who were simply trying to work out what it meant to embody the character of God (as revealed in Jesus) in their particular context and culture – and this is what the church is called to do.
    However the debate surrounding same-sex marriage really has nothing to do with whether or not homosexuality is morally right – whether it is or not is irrelevant. To simply say that a relationship is morally right does not make it a marital one. This is rather an argument about the very meaning and significance of marriage itself. The question is: what is the definition of marriage? And secondly, is there anything uniquely inherent in the ‘male and female’ union called marriage?
    I believe history shows that prior to the 20th century no cultures in history understood marriage to be simply a generic union of persons who commit to a life time of romantic partnership and domestic life. Rather, although the concept of marriage involves a degree of cultural relativity, at its core, marriage across all cultures and time has been something specific, namely a sexually complementary union publically recognised because of its potential for procreation (founding families – without which no human society would exist).

    • Hi Dan,
      you may well be right about the historic meaning of marriage, but i don’t see why we must be bound to it

      • HI Scott,

        Can I just say I love the work you’ve done on ‘the end of greed’ and with refugees and asylum seeks – truly a big supporter! However I don’t understand how you can assert that we don’t have to be bound by the creational meaning of marriage.

        The problem you have is the fact that we are indeed bound to the reality of creation (whether you attribute it to Yahweh or not – it’s reality) – you can call black white no doubt, but the reality is black will never be the same colour. If marriage has no inherent objective meaning then it means nothing at all.

        At its core Marriage was never a creation or idea of any individual religion, culture, or state; the family unit precedes and exceeds the state. In this sense the state never granted the right to marriage, it simply recognised the intrinsic nature of this unique pre-existent union, and the absolute necessity to protect and preserve it for the benefit and sustainability of the state – being the fundamental structure and building block of all human societies.

        Marriage is by definition ‘the union between a husband and wife’, a union naturally orientated towards the bearing and raising of children – an institution explicitly aimed at the stable bond of husband and wife, father and mother, parents and their offspring.

        If we were to change the definition of marriage in Australia to include same sex couples, the uniquely inherent nature and significance of the union would be fundamentally changed; this wouldn’t make marriage inclusive, it would effectively substitute marriage for something quite different. Therefore this is not a matter of equality, it is a matter of completely redefining the very meaning of marriage itself – separating it from its unique defining core.

        • Hi Dan,
          i think there are two separate issues: how the State defines marriage and how the church defines it. To date these have been one and the same. I think we are moving to a situation where they’ll diverge.

          You make a strong case for an ‘objective’ meaning for marriage, but one that many would contest. The question then becomes whether the State should preference your approach.

          BTW my post is not an argument for or against same-sex marriage but a plea that we address ethical methodology.

          • Thanks Scott,
            Really appreciate you taking the time to respond.

            It just seemed that the article was suggesting that marriage is merely an ethical statement of evangelical belief; as though it’s just a list of domestic relationships which the state (or church) approves and recognises as ethically legitimate. Implying that as ethics and culture change, marriage must too (in the context of same-sex partners).

            However I believe if history is anything to go by this is not the case when it comes to marriage precisely because of its unique intrinsic necessity in all human societies regardless of its religion, culture or ethical methodology – the union of a man and a women to procreate families and communities didn’t arise out of an ethical methodology.

            Please don’t get me wrong this was wonderfully put, ‘ the ethical centre of Christianity is to cultivating Christ like character, building lives and communities that reflect the character of God as revealed in Jesus’ – and the need for us to work out how to embody this in our own culture and context is absolutely true. Just the suggestion that marriage has no absolute objective meaning was a bit bewildering.

  • I re-read your article having experienced a mainstream Church stand claiming that heterosexual marriage is ‘God’s word’ as expressed in the Bible. Instead of saying that their INTERPRETATION of God’s word is such and such, they appeal to God as if God would have stated God views on marriage unequivocally. This I find most disturbing, because it attempts to present the conservative view as THE correct view and only view sanctioned by God whereas the marriage equality view as sacrilegious.
    To me marriage in a Christian sense is ultimately the declaration of a sacred union two loving persons wish to enter into for a lifetime publicly and legally, irrespective of gender. Gender is secondary to the loving commitment. If I am against two gay persons having such equal right to heterosexuals, I would be discriminating against their loving bond’s legitimacy which would seem to me as lessening my humanity and theirs. Indeed, within ten years Christians will embrace marriage equality and will see it not as an erosion of Christian values, but rather the triumph of Christian love and inclusiveness and we will all quote in chorus something like: ‘there is neither male or female, for you are ALL ONE in Christ Jesus’

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