What my straight Christian friends need to know about my gay Christian friends.

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I want to tell you about my Christian LGBT friends.

Almost all of them have had an agonising journey as they have sought to reconcile their sexuality with their faith. They have cried themselves to sleep each night begging God to change them; they have been to counselling; some have sought conversion therapies; they have hated themselves; hated God for hating them; some have teetered on the verge of suicide; many have experienced years of depression; and they have eventually come to a point where they have reconciled who they are with whom God is.

Almost every one of my LGBT Christian friends has spent years pouring over the Scriptures that speak about sexuality. They have read the arguments for, the arguments against, and everything in between. When I ask my straight Christian friends how many books they have read on the theology of sexuality I’m usually met with a blank stare. Most have read none. My LGBT Christian friends have read dozens, listen to a multitude of talks, and discussed them for hours with pastors and scholars.

Almost every one of my LGBT Christian friends has experienced vile hatred in the church. They have been spat upon, yelled at, condemned to hell, asked to leave, been told God hates them, and been told that they are an abomination.

Every one of my LGBT Christian friends displays an extraordinary grace. I have never witnessed a greater willingness to forgive, a greater generosity of spirit, a greater willingness to love those who hate them, than I have seen amongst my LGBT Christian friends.

To my straight Christian friends I plead:

My LGBT Christian friends don’t need you to call them to repentance – they have agonised over what it means for them to live before God in a way few of us straight Christians have. Perhaps you could listen to them and discover from their experience what it means to seek to live faithfully before God.

My LGBT Christian friends don’t need you to tell them what the Bible teaches. When it comes to the issue of sexuality they know far more about the Bible than you do. Perhaps you could ask them to teach you what they have learned.

My LGBT Christian friends do need you to love them. How many times do you think a person can endure hatred, rejection, and have their fellow believer look condescendingly down upon them before their spirit wilts and they walk away?

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Joanne Elliott
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Thank you once again, Scott for putting into words so much that is in many believers’ hearts regarding gay Christians. I believe that many people in churches should hang their heads in shame because of the intolerance and lack of compassion involved.

Barbara Arndell
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Thanks Scott for putting so clearly what many of us feel. My gay friends are some of the loveliest most gracious people I know.

scott higgins
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Thanks Barbara

Carol
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Thank you Scott, wonderful to see the words love and acceptance sitting alongside same-sex and church. As a Christian mother of a Gay, Christian son and his lovely partner in life, I believe all we need to do is love and care as Jesus did

Scott Higgins
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Thanks Carol

Cameron
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I’m genuinely intrigued how you are ok with being divorced and (I presume) being remarried ….which scripture condemns as being adulterous but somehow we gay Christian folk are sinful for wanting to express our love.

Brian Ferriera
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considering how many people have died fighting over it it say yea it is wrong

scott higgins
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Mike, Cathy has laid out arguments about the biblical texts. Disagree if you like but provide arguments. All you seem to do is offer insults and assertions that Cathy is wrong.

Donna Angell
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Thank you so much for this article. Very refreshing, well-written and your genuine love for your friends shows. I feel the same about my LGBT friends. We all need someone to listen and help reduce the pain. That is the love of Jesus. May grace and peace continue to be yours. Donna xo

Donna Angell
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Another comment….there will always be “haters” within the church and outside it. Sometimes the most loving thing is to not engage with them. Pray but stay away. Love but from a distance. Each has to search their own heart and conscience.

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